Hidden away in north london ,some might say is an adults disneyland . as you enter the unit you are welcomed by adreena and her aray of apparatus. at a glance it's hard to imagine that anything looking this sinister has brought so many pleasure. Welcome to the world of bdsm!
So Adreena how did you get into the BDSM industry?
I’ve been on the kink scene since my teens. It all began when I was 16 and used to hang out in the sex shops of Soho, reading the magazines and scaring the business men on their lunch breaks. I started buying magazines like Skin 2 and Marquis, where I learned about the fetish clubs. At 17, I bought a rubber dress and went to Torture Garden. The second I got through the door, I knew that I was home. By the time I was 18, I was modelling and performing at the clubs, and have done so ever since. Domming didn’t come until much later, I’ve only been pro for about 5 or so years. Before that I was a pastry chef and kink was my side hustle. Eventually I got so busy with it, I had to make the jump and give up cheffing. I’ve never looked back.
In your opinion what does it take to be a great dominatrix?
Above anything else, intelligence and emotional empa- thy. You have to be able to understand the psychology of sexuality, ascertain what the individual needs and give it to them. For me, being a dominatrix is about helping people to explore and celebrate their sexuality in a safe space. I always say that the best tool in a dominatrices’ toolbox is her brain. I’m a big fan of psychological play. You can have all the fun toys in the world, but it counts for nothing if you can’t be creative and get inside someone’s head. You also need to be hygienic, disciplined, and deal with men very patient!
Do you think it has a shelf life?
Man, that really depends. I think you are always at risk of burn out. When it stops being fun, and you stop loving it, it gets dark, so I’m always aware of that and trying to take steps to prevent it. The great thing about female dominance is, in theory, it’s about the sexual power of the woman, and there shouldn’t be an expiration date for that. Women get more powerful with age, and so age shouldn’t be a hin- derance. That said, men don’t always see it that way. They
obviously want to be controlled by someone young and beautiful. I have quite a few domme friends in their 40s to 60s who are still very active and successful. I have so much admiration and respect for them, and I’d absolutely love to be doing it in my 50s, too! That said, my style is very sensual and erotic, and I know I incorporate my energy into my work a lot, so I don’t know
if I’ll have the ‘shelf life’ of a domme that specialises in discipline or corporal punishment. I know I commoditise on my youth. To be honest, I’m not sure I want to be on the ‘front line’ of sex work forever... I want to eventually get into advocacy, education and public speaking.
Are there different levels/types of a Dom?
There are different types, styles and approaches, yes. I always encourage potential submissive’s to ‘window shop’ a bit before they book a session, one size does not fit all and we all have different approaches that appeal to different types of submissive. For example, if you consider yourself a slave type, you may want a stricter lifestyle domme. I personally specialise in kink positive, nurturing and authen- tic/natural domination. So I may not appeal to someone who is looking for something really hardcore. We all tend
to naturally develop our own styles and approaches, just like it’s impossible to avoid developing your own personal language within any creative field. Some dominatrices may specialise in financial domination, or hard sports, or disci- pline... You get humiliatrixes for humiliation, cuckoldresses, keyholders...
Why do you think the dominatrix/BDSM industry is so taboo or do you like it that way?
It’s sex, isn’t it? We’re all so repressed about it. It’s mind-blowing to me that in this age people are still so unable to discuss sexuality or anything that is perceived
as unconventional. The problem is that we aren’t willing to talk about sex and sexuality. If we were, there would be a lot less stigma and people’s attitudes to sex would be far healthier. We try to protect people by not addressing sexuality, but it’s actually just very damaging. I personally love it being taboo as I love to live on the pe- riphery of social norms, and I like being able to challenge and confront peoples prejudices. But for the sake of others well being, I do wish we were more open. The amount of men that come to me in their late fifties after repressing who they are their whole lives and carrying round so much shame... It breaks my heart.